Most people go through life, never making a confident decision.
Always worrying if they made the right choice, asking themselves âMaybe I shouldâve chosen the other one?â.
For something that can seem so complicated and deep, it has a simple (sort of) solution.
Itâs the âhell yeah or noâ framework.
The framework is simple.
When faced with a decision, if your mind is not screaming âhell yeah, letâs do thisâ then it's automatically a ânoâ.
Any tiny doubt about any part of the decision and you say ânoâ.
Subconsciously, everyone knows the right decision for them.
The question is whether youâre in tune with your subconscious enough to hear it speaking to you.
Most people arenât.
They end up defying their subconscious and making decisions that arenât a âhell yeahâ.
These decisions are never aligned with your values.
Your subconscious knows your values - even if you donât.
It will run every decision by them and if itâs misaligned with them itâll manifest as a seed of doubt - sometimes bigger than others - and your mind wonât scream âhell yeahâ.
When you make these decisions, defying your internal compass, it eats you up inside (deep down, sometimes you wonât feel it.)
And eventually, it comes back round to bite you.
But, but, butâŠ
Look, I get it.
Decisions arenât always easy to make.
You might have FOMO (fear of missing out).
Youâll want to take every opportunity and never say ânoâ because you live in scarcity.
You donât understand that new opportunities will come around again. Ones that align with your values and will be a âhell yeahâ.
Plus, focus is powerful.Â
Do less, do it better, and youâll get better results
Opportunities will come.
You might âneverâ be sure of the right choice - if youâre not sure, itâs a ânoâ.
If youâre not fully committed, youâll not go all in on the decision.
Or maybe you donât like to upset people?
Well, hereâs the truth - they donât care.
If they do, theyâll care for 5 minutes and then forget about it.
And in the rare case that they take it badly, they shouldnât be in your life.
Your time is precious. Guard it.
For every decision, if itâs not a âhell yeahâ, if youâre not fully committed, itâs a ânoâ.
Living by this will change your life.
Decisions become easy to make.
You become confident in your choices.
You make better decisions, aligned with your values, and that will benefit you more in the long term.
Youâll feel more fulfilled and live a better life.
This. Is. The. Way.
Value Discovery
Your subconscious will know your values.
But with using this âhell yeahâ or ânoâ framework, itâll help for you to be aware of them as well.
So, hereâs how to define your values:
This involves you asking yourself a few questions, thinking deeply, and writing honestly.
What is a non-negotiable trait or principle you believe everyone should adopt?
When were you most fulfilled? Any values you can take from this time?
What do you value?
These are prompts. You can change them, use them, or alter them.
Their purpose is simply to get you thinking about what you value and whatâs important to you.
The goal here is to get 3-5 values.
If you feel the urge, when answering the prompts, to write down 15-20 - do it.
But once youâre done, cut it down to the 3-5 most important.
Every time youâre faced with a tough decision, you can run the decision through both the âhell yeah or noâ framework and your values.
If itâs not a hell yeah, I can guarantee itâs because it misaligns with your values and will dampen your pursuit of them.
I value:
Mastery
Integrity
Impact
Everything I do must align with at least 1 of these and not ruin my pursuit of the others.
If it dampens or negatively affects any of them, itâs a no.
If it improves at least 1 of them without negatively affecting any, itâs a yes.
Luckily, your subconscious already runs through this philosophy for you.
If it dampens any of your values, you wonât be sure of the decision, youâll have doubts (even tiny ones) and it wonât be a hell yeah.
But now, since you know your values, you can run decisions through the framework and then figure out why it was or wasnât a âhell yeahâ.
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